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What is forbidden for a mourner during shloshim?

by Rabbi Naftali Silberberg


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shloshim (Hebrew for 30) refers to the first 30 days of mourning an immediate family member. During this time:

1. It is forbidden to attend a wedding.
2. It is forbidden to listen to live music.
3. It is forbidden to take a hair-cut.
4. It is forbidden to cut nails (with a utensil).
5. It is preferable not to take hot showers.
6. It is forbidden to buy or wear new clothing.

When mourning a parent some of the mourning observances continue for 12 months. See here for more.

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Learning during shloshim

Posted by: Anonymous on Jun 11, 2006

It is also customary to coordinate a group of people to learn the complete mishnah ("oral law") during the shloshim period.

Since a Jewish soul can still benefit from mitzvot (good deeds) done by people still alive, it is a special privilege to help anyone that had passed away by learning mishnayos (the oral law) on their behalf. The word Mishnah (oral law) and Neshama (soul) are composed of the exact same hebrew letters indicating a special bond between the two. For that reason, mishnayos have become the customary subject of torah to learn following a death.

Literally means "thirty." Usually a reference to the thirty day mourning period observed by immediate family after the death of a relative.