I am G-d Who lifted you out of Egypt to be your G-d. Therefore be holy since I am holy (Leviticus 11:45)  

Is there anything more powerful than death?

Attempts to beat mortality have consumed man from the beginning of time. The Pharaoh’s of old tried to achieve immortality through embalmment. Today some are trying through cryogenic freezing. Even our cosmetics industry, botox and all, is part of the timeless quest desperately searching for the “fountain of youth,” anything that can arrest the aging process.

These efforts have only been accentuated by the human fear of death. Some argue that the fear of death is the root of all fears, and the driving force that shapes most (if not all) of our ambitions to leave a lasting mark on the universe; to be remembered even after death.

Indeed, some religions and philosophies feel that the refusal of human beings to acknowledge the imminence of death and impermanence is a fundamental cause of the confusion and ignorance that prevents spiritual progress. Spiritual growth, they believe, is achieved not by cowering from death, but by confronting it head on. They therefore proscribe an elaborate strategy to incorporate into daily life the mindfulness of death, to seriously engage the truth of impermanence and, in turn, to comprehend the true nature of human existence.

But after all the attempts, and after everything is said and done, nothing seems to be able to beat death.  

And so I thought. Until… Until I lost my father and began saying Kaddish for him every day – 16 times a day on average, for a total of 5212 times during these past eleven months¹ – the traditional period for saying Kaddish after a parent, which my siblings and I have just concluded.  

Death is a profound personal experience – perhaps the most defining one in our entire lives. As such, each of us experiences Kaddish differently

Following the death of his father, Leon Wieseltier wrote his fascinating journal-like book, Kaddish, documenting his personal Kaddish journey, juxtaposed over his research in the background and sources of the Kaddish prayer.  

Death is a profound personal experience – perhaps the most defining one in our entire lives. As such, each of us experiences Kaddish differently.  

I will therefore briefly share one aspect of my subjective journey.  

But first let us look at the actual Kaddish text:

Yeetgadal v'yeetkadash sh'mey rabbah - Exalted and hallowed be His great Name.
B'almah dee v'rah kheer'utey - throughout the world which He has created according to His will.
v' yamleekh malkhutei, v’yatzmach purkonei vikorov mishichei - May He establish His kingship, give blossom to His redemption and hasten  His Messiah.
b'chahyeykhohn, uv' yohmeykhohn, uv'chahyei d'chohl beyt Yisrael, - in your lifetime and in your days, and in the lifetime of the entire House of Israel,
ba'agalah u'veez'man kareev, v'eemru: Amein. - speedily and soon. And say: Amen.
Y'hey sh'mey rabbah m'varach l'alam u'l'almey almahyah. - May His great Name be blessed forever and to all eternity.
Yeet'barakh, v'yeesh'tabach, v'yeetpa'ar, v'yeetrohmam, v'yeet'nasei, - Blessed and praised, glorified, exalted and extolled,
v' yeet'hadar, v' yeet'aleh, v' yeet'halal sh'mey d'kudshah b'reekh hoo - honored, upraised and lauded be the Name of the Holy One, Blessed be He
L'eylah meen kohl beerkhatah v'sheeratah, - beyond all the blessings and songs,
toosh'b'chatah v'nechematah, da'ameeran b'al'mah, v'eemru: Amein - praises and consolations that are uttered in the world. And say: Amen. Y'hei shlamah rabbah meen sh'mahyah,v'chahyeem tovim aleynu - May there be abundant peace from Heaven, and a good life for us
v'al kohl yisrael, v'eemru: Amein - and for all Israel. And say: Amen.
Oseh shalom beem'roh'mahv, hoo ya'aseh shalom, - He Who makes peace in His heights, may He make peace,
aleynu v'al kohl yisrael v'eemru: Amein - for us and for all Israel. And say: Amen.

But therein lies the power of Kaddish, and its ability to conquer death and the pain of loss.  

In its infinite wisdom, Kaddish knows that nothing can really be said to console us for our losses. No words can justify or minimize the far-reaching effects of experiencing death. Even the great Moses shuddered when confronted with death.  

Nothing, absolutely nothing, can conquer the mystery of death. Its finality – I no longer can speak with my father – is just too overwhelming, too unfathomable for our beings to contain.  

Yes, we can talk about the deceased as perhaps a nice memory, but it hardly compensates for the loss. Any attempt to remember or reflect on the life of the deceased, any effort to build something in his memory, is only as powerful as the mortal strength we invest in the effort. As mortals ourselves how can we ever expect to defy and conquer mortality?

The only thing that can subdue the sheer inscrutability of death is the Source of all reality – a place that precedes and transcends life and death. The big question “why do people die” is linked to the even bigger question “why are people born?” The mystery of death is entwined with the mystery of life. However, with our limited knowledge we are much more concerned with the former question than the latter. When we lose something we wonder why; when we have it we often take it for granted.  

The only thing that can subdue the sheer inscrutability of death is the Source of all reality – a place that precedes and transcends life and death

Kaddish embraces you and your loss like nothing can. We don't focus on our own pain and loss, we don't focus on the departed life – but on the source of all life, the source of the immortal soul — Yeetgadal v'yeetkadash sh'mey Rabbah.²   

Life alone does not beat death. But life with purpose – with Divine purpose – beats death

Nothing else would do.  

So is there anything more powerful than death? Can we ever beat death? Not if we hold on to our limited vision of life. Life is not stronger than death. On the contrary; Death ends life as we know it.  

But if we embrace the Giver of life — or rather allow Him to embrace us — through the Kaddish — Yeetgadal v'yeetkadash sh'mey Rabbah — then we achieve immortality. We connect to the immortal soul of the departed, and to the source of all immortality.  

Life alone does not beat death. But life with purpose – with Divine purpose – beats death.

So, thank you little Kaddishel. Thank you for being there for me, for embracing me in my time of loss, for protecting me against the finality of death, for teaching me the secret of immortality. Thank you for allowing me to connect in ways I never imagined possible to the purpose of it all, to the purpose of my existence.  

Thank you Kaddishel.  

Now I bid you farewell. I hope we never meet again.

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