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Why does the groom arrive at the chupah before the bride?

by Rabbi Naftali Silberberg


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Many Jewish wedding laws and customs find their origins in the grandest wedding the world has ever witnessed--the marriage of G-d to His beloved bride Israel at Mount Sinai.1

The groom is the first to arrive at the Chupah, just as G-d preceded the Jews to Mound Sinai.2

The groom is the first to arrive at the chupah, just as G-d preceded the Jews to Mound Sinai
Some other examples: The giving of the Torah was accompanied by a spectacular thunder and lightening show.3   We subtly reenact this lights and sound show by escorting the bride and groom to the chupah with candles and music. The Ketubah given to the bride at the chupah is reminiscent of the Torah which was given to us--our ever-binding marriage contract.


  • 1. See Mishnah tractate Ta'anit 4:7 where the Sinai experience is called "The Wedding".
  • 2. Exodus 19:17.
  • 3. Ibid 19:16.


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