This can only be accomplished when the latent spiritual forces are manifest within a fitting worldly context. When spiritual resources are misallocated (via human free will), destructive spiritual forces are created, delaying the rectification of the world and causing a rift between us and the good that the Creator wishes to bestow upon us.

Sexual union can be the most powerful manifestation of the fusion of body and spirit. When partners are united in their intentions, having made a lifelong commitment to grow together, experience the depths of each other's personalities, and perhaps even bring children into the world, their physical union is more than a fleeting passion. In essence, they are uniting spiritual worlds, utilizing one of the most powerful tools that G-d has given humankind.

The cavalier use of the power of procreation is a gross maltreatment of this awesome medium. Only after acknowledging the potential of a life-long bond (i.e. marriage), can a couple have the clarity it takes to truly grow together in a physical relationship.

More often than not, premarital sex desensitizes both partners, making it more difficult to access the heights offered by a deeper, more profound relationship. Sadly, couples which engage in premarital physical intimacy are frequently plagued with uncertainties as to the essence of their real connection, making long-term commitments much more difficult.

Honest soul-searching will demonstrate that, essentially, we are all looking for a deeper connection – a love that transcends transient physical desires.

May we be blessed with clarity!

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