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How do I not hate an "unlikable" person?

  

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Rabbi Shlomo Chein: Welcome. I'll be with you in a moment...what's on your mind?

Dinah: thanks for taking my question - it seems like a busy night :)

Dinah: How do I not hate a person who is not nice -- manipulative, immature, uses people, etc.

Dinah: (I am trying not to have hate in my heart, as I know this is bad for the soul)

Rabbi Shlomo Chein: 1) you can dislike the action, you don't have to dislike the person

Rabbi Shlomo Chein: 2) You can judge the person favorably and think of reasons why the person might be that way, reasons that are not really his/her fault

Rabbi Shlomo Chein: 3) You can realize that everyone has faults and you wouldn't want people to hate you for yours

Dinah: I see

Rabbi Shlomo Chein: :-)

Dinah: and at the same time, I don't have to 'take' this person's 'abuse' (verbal), but still I can perhaps think, this is still a jewish soul, and his actions are bad

Dinah: (he's a coworker)

Rabbi Shlomo Chein: it is not easy, but work on it

Dinah: yes it's not easy - I still can tell him to talk to me when he's ready to talk to me when he's in a calm way - but I'm trying not to hate him....

Rabbi Shlomo Chein: it looks like you have it all figured out :-)

Dinah: yes....Hashem is testing me.... :)

Dinah: thanks, have a good night

Rabbi Shlomo Chein: you too

Dinah: leila tov.....

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Hashem
"The Name." Out of respect, we do not explicitly mention G-d's name, unless in the course of prayer. Instead, "Hashem" is substituted.
Dinah
Daughter of Leah and Jacob. She was abducted by Shechem, but was rescued through the heroism of her brothers Shimon and Levi