I offended a friend and asked her forgiveness several times, but she refuses. What do I do now?

by Rabbi Naftali Silberberg

Library » Holidays » Yom Kippur » Repentance | Subscribe | What is RSS? PRINT EMAIL COMMENT According to Halachah (Jewish law), in such an instance, the one who is guilty of the offense is supposed to gather some friends of the victim and together approach him to ask forgiveness. If the victim still refuses to forgive him, this process should be repeated twice. If after approaching the victim three times he still declines to forgive, the offender is off the hook.1 If after approaching the victim to ask forgiveness three times he still declines to forgive, the offender is off the hook Footnotes 1. Shulchan Aruch (Code of Jewish Law) Orach Chayim 606:1 - from the Talmud tractate Yoma 87a ADD A COMMENT Please email me when new comments are posted (you must be  logged in). COMMENTS Forgiveness without reparations Posted by: Anonymous, San Diego, CA on Oct 11, 2006 This does not seem adequate to me. If someone hurts me, makes no attempt to repair the damage, and "only" asks for forgiveness, why should I forgive. Editor's Comment Great point. It is certainly the responsibility of the offender to make any necessary reparations before expecting forgiveness. This article is discussing a situation where all possible reparations have been made. read more less RELATED CATEGORIES Mitzvot » Repentance Email to a friend Post a comment cancel Loading...